Having dealt with their parents' estates, my sister-in-law doesn't feel up to handling this estate, and has asked the Man to do it. Like us, she lives down here in NoVA.Brother was the last sibling still in NYC, in Queens. He was a bit of a lone wolf, had no partner of either gender, and lived in what one of my other brother-in-laws (no less of a packrat himself) describes as "a three bedroom house worth of stuff in a studio apartment."
Plus storage spaces. At least one, perhaps two.
The Man will have to deal with this, hopefully with the help of that other brother-in-law. I won't be able to help much because the estate still isn't settled, and we can't get into the apartment now. And by the time we do, I will be back to my multiple story hours a week grind.
To add insult to injury, the Man broke a front tooth last week. And having neglected his teeth for years, he will end up losing most of them. Possibly
I wanted to re-do our deck--it needs doing. I wanted to replace our windows. I see that all fading away as dental bills loom.
And the Man, who has suffered (but not treated) from mild depression is in a bad place, and he takes it out by being nasty to me and to the girls. This isn't going to help things.
Then there's SC, my sweet, steady, reliable girl. She will graduate college (!) in December, and wants to go onto graduate school. Her 529 plan won't cover most of the cost. And she keeps trying to pass the math portion of the PRAXIS exam, and failing, and she can't do the grad school program without passing. Oh, and she has developed a helluva case of IBS-d, which is probably stress induced.
I could also mention that her long time boyfriend has decided he is going to transition into being a woman named Alice(!), and that getting her to officially breakup with him was hellish. They are still friends though, and he/she is depending on her more than he/she should.
Meanwhile JR is very reluctantly going to community college, still with no direction, still not doing anything to go in any direction. She has had a very nice boyfriend since last October, but the relationship got shaky in the summer. And her only true friend, her BFF, has gone off to college in the wilds of Maine, so she has no one else to hang out with, and I doubt if she will make many friends at the new school.
At work, they forced the circulation supervisor, my friend of nearly 20 years, into early retirement, and we are short staffed, I fear my Type A boss is doing things behind my back, and my friend here who I think of as my "other" brother-in-law has stopped speaking to me except when necessary, and I don't know why he's pissed at me.
Oh, and I am daily chased by the fear that I might have lung cancer, because I got sick last December and the doctor THOUGHT they saw something on my lungs, and my own doctor, who is hyper cautious wants me to have an MRI this fall, and I obsess that I am going to die and hurt my girls and leave my Man to fend for himself.
Can I scream now?